Being Grateful Today...

Happy Thanksgiving to my readers today.  To be grateful is a beautiful thing.  When I think of gratefulness, being thankful...I visualize all of the changes that have occurred in my life.  Some things that happen in our lives we are focused on...determined to reach the goal....make the catch....get the grade; and other things that happen in our lives come out of the blue...not at all what we wanted or expected...but none the less happen.  Being grateful is truly standing in any given moment of our life and being content to be there.  Wherever that may be...maybe not the most comfortable place....but where we are.  Where YOU are.  I always wonder what it would be like to truly live in an impartial way.  Accepting everything and anything that comes my way.  Can I do that?  Is that a way that anyone can truly live?  I am willing to give the intent to go there.  So being grateful.. well it is being satisfied and fulfilled right where I am...and right NOW that is not being able to sleep!!!  :)  I know I randomly post at such ridiculous times of the day...but that is when the words come...that is when the sleep has escaped me... but I am truly grateful for the life that I am living. I am content with where I am, living and doing what I do.  Living from the most authentic place I can find and enjoying the ride.  Does change stop me from making the decision to move forward..hopefully not.  I live each moment, expecting the next moment to be just as fulfilling as the prior.

Live the rest of your life with the drive to be a leader that promotes the highest level of energy...enticing those in your life to aspire for the greatest of life's gifts.  I guess this was a random babble...but I felt compelled to share my feelings of thanks.

Thank You....My Love,
Bobbi

Letting go...

How do you guide yourself to let go of reaction?  That is truly part of the human experience, yet that is the very thing that leads us to haboured feelings in our body.  The fact that we react to others actions can actually allow emotion to build up in our bodies and start the signs of dis-ease....but that is what we do....react.  I am truly just letting the thoughts roll out of my head tonight as I blog.  I am so curious as to how our minds and bodies interact....almost as though they are truly two separate beings!  Our mind tells us one thing and our body responds in the best way it can.  Our mind hangs on to thoughts processes that are truly damaging to our body.....so where do we go with it???  It is truly puzzling and I guess the mystery of our lives.

My personal goal in life is to become aware of the reactions I choose.  We will all most definitely react to everything that we face in life....but as I continue this thought process, I realize that is being AWARE that we are reacting in a certain way is the beginning of the realization that reaction is the basis for our body's well being.  If the initial reaction is one that is negative based....acknowledge it... give it some time to be there...then exercise turning it around to a more positive place and move forward with it that way.  I am told that everything has a positive twist...some things are very difficult to put in that place....but none the less everything has a bright side (or one that is brighter than the other).

So...letting go....of the negative thoughts....the fear....the long held grudges....the anger....replacing those feelings with peace...kindness...compassion....love....happiness....ahhh yes that is better.

Enjoy this beautiful week!  Love to all, Bobbi

Endurance...??

Addiction was not a problem in the 17th and 18th century....when I heard these words in the workshop I attended I wondered...really?  The word 'addict' was not described in the dictionary until 1899.  It seems as though back then addict = social status.  The middle class held moral values in tact...and were the last to be affected by addictions.  Endurance - Stamina - Values....what happened to all of that.  That which we can all hold deep in our congruent truth???  What happened?  We are so quick to find fault somewhere else, in someone else....it could not possibly be something we have done or said right??  It saddens me to realize that so many of us have fallen into the trap of the 'blame' game.  We not only need reasons why things are the way they are...but additionally seem to feel the need to justify why we need the reasons by blaming an incident in our lives or a person/group etc to tag some additional blame to.  Because...it can't be OUR fault or misunderstanding now can it?  Wow, sounds like I am really on my soap box today...but for the most part it is true. We wonder why there is so much addiction in our society...we have totally become unattached to endurance.  Endurance has really become a mystery.  Think about it....I really need to do the same.  Thanks for reading...more to come

Love, Bobbi

Addiction....

I am at a workshop this weekend on "Addiction - Explored as an Archetypal Journey toward Personal Empowerment", Caroline Myss, Hockley Valley Resort, Orangeville, Ontario, Canada.  I decided to share my journey as kind of a journal process for me...in order to keep my notes straight and discover how much of this information has truly resonated with me!  So here we go...I will take it slow as I want to digest this information as best I can.  This is truly a personal journey for me but one that I feel will help all of us see what is holding us in an addictive behavior that we may be willing to change.

So .....  An addict is not helpless over their addiction.  We are not powerless against other obstacles in our lives...how so this one obstacle?  We need to find that empowerment within us....empowerment.  We are never done understanding ourselves and the fragments of ourselves we have flying around in us.  We are never truly totally congruent...just when we get at peace with one thing, another part of us will spiral out away from the 'mother ship'!  The many parts of us are like ships out sailing around the 'mother ship' (our authentic self)....as these ships stay within the radar of the mother ship....one ship may spin out of orbit ...fall into a behavior that is not congruent with our authentic self.

This is when we need to initiate change....How fast change happens is what constitutes the path of your life.  Sometimes we lie to ourselves...assuring ourselves that everything is in order...that our ships are all within the radar of the mother ship...but we know they are not.

As we take this journey we will begin to understand our own will....that there is no end to any choice you make.  EVERY CHOICE MATTERS...wow I better say that one again....EVERY CHOICE MATTERS!  We become paralyzed at making a choice because of the possible consequence!

We prefer to see our lives as an allusion....so that is why we stay addicted.

We define ourselves as rational....however, 65% of our choices are irrational.  We know that we are making a choice that serves our addiction...but we do it anyway.  We have this allusion that it is 'ok' and that it is the 'right' choice....at least that is what the voice of that addiction tells us...right?

We don't want to look at the part of us that has an 'addiction'....and it is not about the substance or action at all...it is totally about the emotion that this substance or action is feeding.  Are you addicted to power, love, control, affection, attention, pain, pity, comfort, love.  That is where are true addictions lie...in the emotion we 'crave'.  We absolutely do not want to become acquainted with this part of ourselves.

I will be back with more later....let me know your thoughts.

Allowing...the mystery.

L I S T E N – A Hypnosis Workshop

Lessons In Shifting Thoughts & Engaging Awareness

Hypnosis Workshop 1 – Wednesday, August 17 @ 7PM-8:30PM

Allowing….the mystery

Engage in an awareness of the difference between Wanting & Allowing in regards to…

·         Relationships

·         Work

·         Self-Image

·         Expectations

·         Personal Growth

·         Life

Become a keen observer.   Judge less and listen more to what happens around you on a daily basis.   Realizing the difference in how your body feels when you want something, desire something vs allowing that something to happen.  Practice letting go of defining and labeling what happens in your life by allowing things to manifest in a natural way. Let relationships just be as they are without judgment and definition.  Don’t always try to understand and bring a reason to everything. Understanding how we constantly contradict ourselves with our own thoughts….”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Allow….

Come join us at Lardi Chiropractic, 495 E First Street, Coal City, IL  60415

7:00-8:30PM   - SPACE LIMITED to First 10 Paid Registrants – 815-634-3750 to register and payment options - $15

Workshop includes a hypnotic induction based on the content of the workshop – each participant will receive a cd of the induction to take home.

Workshop based on Book…”Change your Thoughts….Change your Life”, Wayne Dyer

Virtual Gastric Band

Check out the news coverage on the Virtual Gastric Band.  We offer this process at 495 E First, Coal City, IL  815-634-3750.  We are also in process of using space in Chicago to offer this service.  Let us know if you are interested in details!!

http://www.abc2news.com/dpp/news/health/local-woman-drops-42-pounds-after-hypno-bypass

Allowing....

How does it feel to say...I want?  Somehow it seems to get the feeling of commitment...work...focus...almost a feeling of lack.

How does it feel to say ....I allow?  Seems to take the pressure off of things.

That is what I want to feel through in this writing....the difference one can feel when you want things in your life vs 'allowing' the things you want to happen.

We put too many time frames on when and how things should happen in our lives....let them happen as they will....in universal time.  Patience....what the heck is that?  It is definitely something we need to learn to allow for in our lifetime!

Allowing can also mean being flexible in our thinking and actions.  I watched the other day as my grandson was excitedly eating a freezer pop that his mom was so patiently giving him little pieces at a time.  On occasion he would drop a piece of that freezer pop on the floor.  He would literally bend at the waist....not bending his knees....and put his mouth on the floor to retrieve that piece of dropped freezer pop!  Seriously....reach the floor....bend in half!  Now that is being flexible!!

When we first arrive in this world we have this chalkboard...this blank chalkboard that people enter into our lives and write one.  What do they write...well things like "you are beautiful", "what a great job you are doing", "you think you can do that?", "should you have done better?", "I think that is a crazy idea!", and so on and so on and so on.

The problem is, we take a permenant marker and write over this comments on our chalkboard and they stay with us for the rest of our lives.  Unfortunately, the ones we REALLY believe are the negative comments that were written.  And truth be known, they were not intended to harm us...probably just the opposite..their intention was to protect us....but none the less we BELIEVE them.  So as we take on these limited beliefs we become less and less flexible in what we feel we can do or accomplish.

Get your eraser out and start clearing some of the 'stuff' on your chalkboard.  Get introduced and aquainted with the truth that is deep inside of you.  We are all individually AMAZING...just clear off that chalkboard and get to know YOU!

Peace and Love, Bobbi

The Glass of Water....interesting concept to live by....

THE WATER GLASS

A young woman confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience, with a raised glass of water, and everyone figured she was going to ask the ultimate question -- 'half empty or half full?'..... she fooled them all.

"How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile..

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter.  It depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.  If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance.  In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress.  If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on.  As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.  When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced.

So, as early in the evening as soon you can, put all your burdens down.  Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... pick them up tomorrow.
Relax, recharge, pick them up later after you've rested.  BUT-- If after putting them down, you realize you don't need them anymore...then let them go!
1 * Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully... It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker..

5 * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it..

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can't push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12 * The second mouse gets the cheese.

13 * When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

15 * You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19 * Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.

20 * Save the earth..... It's the only planet with chocolate !*

Do we really want to be.....

I am sitting here thinking about why people say they want to do things...meet goals, etc.  Many times it is for 'good health', 'to be healthy', 'to get off my meds', 'succeed in business', 'help my family', I could go on and on.  Well, when you get down to simple simple thinking...it should be pretty darn easy to reach those goals.  Follow a healthy diet, exercise and support your mind with positive thoughts and simply be the person to everyone that you would like to be around yourself!

Sounds pretty simplistic to me!  :)

OK...I know.  BUT it can be easy...we need to adjust the way we look at and think about our daily lives.  Make a challenge an opportunity.  Turn fear into a relentless adventure into the unkown.  Who cares if the idea does not work....no one will even notice.  It is the critic inside that makes us feel defeated, embarrassed, afraid to move forward with an idea.

I have in the past years declared myself a free spirit.  I just explain that I do the things I do and think the way I think because I am a free spirit!!  No more worry about turning a new thought into an adventure, no more hesitating to move forward, sticking with turning my thoughts to the positive (and believe me, the people in my life call me out if I start to talk the negative talk!!)...and I am grateful for that!

Love your life...it will love you back and reward you with many years of happy fulfilling experiences.

Love to you all, Bobbi

The Sun sure helps....

As I sit at my desk this morning and enjoy the sight of the sun coming up in the east....I just realize what an amazing effect that big yellow circle has on me!  It is so so comforting to see that sun....thinking about how great is feels when it hits your skin.  I so many times use the thought of the warmth of the sun on your skin as a relaxing technique in my hypnosis inductions.  The simple things that are here for us at no cost...think about it.  That is what being grateful is all about.....noticing the small things in life that we so often just ignore or worse yet take for granted.  Because, in all reality, we don't know if these things will be here tomorrow...do we?  Our future is all such a mystery.....that is why I choose (did I say choose?) to visualize my future just the way I would like it to play out.  It can't hurt now can it....if I picture is bright and sunny I am at least attracting that kind of energy!  Make sense?

When I sat down to write this morning I had no idea where I was going with this posting...and really am not totally sure yet!!  :)....but I do know one thing.....if nothing else 'Choose' to see the bright side of things today....there is always that side (may be the shortest side...but it is still there!).

This week is the kick off of our VGB Trial...Deb and I are so excited about helping these folks start their journey toward the life they have always wanted.....choosing to have a slim, healthy body.

I guess I am using the 'choose' word alot....so I guess this posting is about CHOICE.....

What Do You Choose?

Love to all, Bobbi

VGB getting some local publicity...Trial to start soon!

Our trial for the Virtual Gastric Band will be starting soon!  Please know that this process is truly life changing.  It will totally change the way you look at your way of living.  Food does not have to be the focus of our lives...those of us with problems controlling eating.....need to CHANGE our habits.  Hypnosis coupled with this process is very very powerful!  We have a client that Deb is currently working with that lost eight pounds the first week!!

I have attached the article that was recently publised in the Coal City Courant (Thanks Ann!)

http://freepressnewspapers.com/main.asp?SectionID=14&SubSectionID=14&ArticleID=7286&TM=19523.26

Check this amazing article out....

Please read this....it is an amazing article that guides us to a new way to look at EVERYTHING!!!  Enjoy and share with all of your friends!

http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/what-lucky-people-do-differently/

Refining Techniques in New York City!!

Things are different in every city...this is my first time in New York City....a bit different than Chicago.  Deb and I are here for the final training in Virtual Gastric Band technique.  Wow, is it powerful.  Trials have been run by our trainer Sheila Granger, UK. She is simply an amazing woman, who's primary focus is on her clients and their successes!!  Results have shown there is a 95% success rate with this process.

VGB is truly enjoying a success story.  Anything you look up on this process is laced with success.  It is very simply explained by this.....the client goes to a trained hypnotist in VGB and during the four sessions the clients behavior is changed in such a way that the pounds simply melt away...the Gastric Band is applied hynotically...that's right!

Please contact us if you have any questions about this process...it is truly life changing for any amount of weight loss/body image change that is being sought out.

Best to you all...
Bobbi and Deb

Reasons, Reasons, Reasons....

Wow, I find myself really struggling with the reasons things happen as they do.  So, I know we need to accept, process and use the circumstances as an opportunity....but really sometimes it is just plain overwhelming!  So what do we do to cope when that happens??  Well, the best I have come up with....is dig deep....deep deep inside, finding that silent place in our soul.  The place where our truth lives.  I mean the 'truth'....without judgement, without points of view, without bias....really inside where our true truth lies.  It is a silent place that holds our peace....a place where no matter what is going on in this mortal life we are living we can find peace, hope, acceptance.  How the heck do you find that place?  I am constantly saying that the most important way to successfully survive this life is to live 'simply'.  Find what feels right in every situation, no matter how wrong it feels...there is always a benefit to take from every situation.  Sometimes it may just be the endurance learned making it through....make sense??  Sometimes the lesson may only be knowing you can make it through a really tough time.  I have learned over the past few years to very accepting....letting go of having to know reasons for things.....learning to find that quiet place inside.  The more I practice going there the quieter it gets....til at last you find the silent truth.  Do I feel like I am making sense to you....not really....but I feel it is so so important to at least mention the sacred space we each have inside.  The place where we have all of our answers....the guidance we look for all around the outside of us...is truly within us.  Peace to all of you....Bobbi

“Our Level of True Awareness…

is Directly Related to our Lack of Judging”

“When you judge another…you judge God.” – Bruce D Schneider

Wow…where did that stuff come from?  Honestly, this is probably one of the most difficult things to digest and implement in your life.  Really…do we judge….oh my goodness…..probably every minute of our life.  If we live from a truly conscious level, we will detect when we go into judgment mode.  But, in all reality, we live on the edge of judgment all of the time.  One of the most important lessons that my journey has brought me, is that we all have our own reality….and even though sometimes it is so hard or nearly impossible to give someone else’s thoughts respect….they are their thoughts…their reality….where they are in their life.  We are all creatures of the same higher power, universal perfect energy.  When we guide ourselves to ‘respect’ everyone’s opinion and actions…we are getting closer to the true conscious level of living we are meant to live.  Is it possible….rarely….is it easy…..absolutely not….is it a natural course….not really….can we do it……YES!!!  Every day in every way we get better and better…when we CONSCIOUSLY stay connected to the pure truth….pure respect for every living creature…..it is truly a full time responsibility.  So we have a choice (again!!)…live in a conscious state of truth and purity OR continue judging and seeing the only true way as my way (that would be sad for all of us especially you).  Give it a try….one moment, one hour, one day at a time….totally respecting the acts and words of others…because when it comes right down to it…..we are all of the same flesh…the same source of perfect energy…..our life is a gift…..respect it.  Love to all of you, Bobbi

Urgent or Important?

What is the difference??  So much of our time is spent tending to things that 'come up'.  Things that may not necessarily be important to us....may seem important to someone in our life and then become an 'urgent' issue for us.

The key is to steer our life with our 'true' north in mind.....what is important to you?  If you could remove all of the urgency from our tasks....what would be left on the list that is IMPORTANT.  Urgent tasks are those that cannot be avoided.  A medical issue that needs to be given attention.  A familly member that needs our help.  A deadline that comes out of the woodwork....no prior knowledge.

But...letting urgent issues lead our lives...now that is a problem.  That is when the 'knee-jerk' daily living needs to be addressed and rethought.  Let your day be led with important issues....set some time aside for you to think through what values are leading your life....if your list includes more of what is important to other people and your values are not on the top of the list....then you need to consider a change in your plans.

Let me know how listing your values can help you build a peaceful, productive day for you.

New Year......being happy is the right thing to do!

2011...how does it happen that years go by so fast??  I find myself happy, married and going to be a grandma again this year!  Much of what we do in life leads us to places we never pictured ourselves in. 

There are times we think that everything is going well....and then 'wham' the unexpected happens.

So, I talked about finding your authentic self.  Resolution to change something may not be as valuable as finding out who you actually are....soooo how do you start that process?  One small step at a time.  One little change at a time.  Visioning what it is that you define as your 'miracle life'....and working slowly down that path toward that vision.

Let's get this process in motion.  It is not as overwhelming as it sounds...it just takes time, patience and accountability!  Yes, having to 'report in' is an important part of this process.  We easily let ourselves down...make promises to ourselves to do something, meet a deadline, reach a goal...and if we don't make it...no big deal...you are the only one that knows about it.

I am challenging you...any of you that wish to post your committment to use this blog in a way to become accountable to your goals....your miracle vision.  I promise to keep you accountable...this is a valuable way to get some pro-bono coaching...I will intend to help everyone...but I will be honest with all of you if this leads to something that is too big of an outside committment to me (I have to keep my coaching practice first...and this will not be as effective as personal one on one coaching with hypnosis...but I would like to give it a 'whirl')!!  It could be so much fun....a great learning experience for me and some valuable tools for you!  Let's do this...

First send me via comment your vision....what your miracle would be....by answer the following question:

If you woke up one morning, and everything was the way you vision your perfect life would be...tell me about that morning....what would you be doing that day, and how would it feel?  Be honest, serious and let's start this journey!